Posts Tagged ‘pegasus NLP’

Curiosity…

He was walking along beside me, looking around him – and being uncharacteristically quiet. Then, as four or five-year olds do, he stopped and made a few attempts to say it but in the emotion of the moment the words sort of log-jammed a bit before he could get them out: ‘Why… emm why… why are the clouds so high?’

It was one of those ‘get out of that one questions’! Do you give a sensible and logical and scientific answer, which would damp the moment of curiosity and wonder, or do you keep the mood going by throwing the question back to him?

I did the latter, with a ‘what do you think?’ question, and we had a wonderfully existential chat. Read the rest of this entry »

She didn’t dither nor mess about. She got straight to the point. She wanted information which she knew she had a right to and she expected me to give to her!

Her email arrived today via our web contact form and read: ‘I am actually getting fear of closed spaces I want to treat myself and help my followers in my sports profession.. many undergoing these symptoms.’

That’s it – exactly as it arrived (apart from her contact details, of course. No attempt to create rapport. No real information. No reason for me to respond. )

The pe2000.com website

The message came via our pe2000.com website which provides free information about how we can manage our emotions and deal more effectively with anger, panic, fears, phobias and so on. Most of  the information is based on my experience and observations from working with individual clients as a psychotherapist and with groups as a stress management trainer since 1984. Read the rest of this entry »

Making it ‘your own’ Values Hierarchy

Values are very personal. No-one can or should advise us about which values are right for us. Of course lots of people are only too happy to do so, whether as well-meaning friends or well-intentioned (if unskilled) coaches or therapists.

It is, after all, much easier to advise someone else on how they can or should live a fulfilling life than to do so for oneself.

Fortunately anyone can use the NLP-based process described in this series of articles to check and double-check their values hierarchy before investing time and energy in pursuing it.  (Incidentally, if you’ve just discovered this blog you might want to note that this is No. 6 in a series – scroll down to get articles 1-5 in the NLP & Goals series. And it might be a good idea to read them in this order.) Read the rest of this entry »