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Open Loops
Like many of the things he said back in the 80’s, Richard Bandler’s observation that people often use ‘just’ as a way of being unjust initially puzzled me. And, of course and as intended, it opened up a loop which my brain continued to puzzle at until I got my answer – weeks, or was it months, later.
(How do I know it was intended? Because the Open Loops process is a standard NLP process for eliciting a deeper level of learning. And we use the process in our own Pegasus NLP training programmes. The Open Loops process is very interesting and was wonderfully highlighted by Bluma Zeigarnik back in the 1920s. But that’s another story… and it’s also an Open Loop…) Continue reading
Living vicariously – or living
This month’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about the difference between living a fulfilling life and living your life second hand – i.e. living or living vicariously.
Many of us don’t live fulfilling lives i.e. we get by from day to day in comfort but without a real sense of fulfilment i.e. the fulfilment that comes from fulfilling our personal values. We’re filling in time rather than living.
To avoid having to face this reality or the mundanity of a life that is not purposeful and fulfilling we have come up with ‘things to look forward to’ such as favourite TV programmes, computer games, and holidays. As a result much of the year can be taken up with looking forward to the holiday or looking back on one. Or in living our lives through other people as in gossip magazines, TV reality programmes, or TV knockout talent series.
(I know of people who will spend 2-4 hours nightly watching such programmes – they spend around 25% of their waking lives in front of the TV).
The danger with this is that, because everyone else appears to be doing it, it seems like a normal way to live one’s life.
Yet if you live your life according to your personal values you can have an on-going sense of fulfilment, involvement and purpose. The TV or the holiday becomes the icing on the cake rather than the cake itself!
The newsletter is posted here: http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_newsletter_current.htm
The latest Pegasus NLP Newsletter looks at healthy ageing and suggest 10 ways of getting this into action. The newsletter is here: http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_newsletter_current.htm
There’s another article on ageing here: http://www.pe2000.com/ageing_attitude.htm
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