Posts Tagged ‘nlp modelling’
Curiosity…
He was walking along beside me, looking around him – and being uncharacteristically quiet. Then, as four or five-year olds do, he stopped and made a few attempts to say it but in the emotion of the moment the words sort of log-jammed a bit before he could get them out: ‘Why… emm why… why are the clouds so high?’
It was one of those ‘get out of that one questions’! Do you give a sensible and logical and scientific answer, which would damp the moment of curiosity and wonder, or do you keep the mood going by throwing the question back to him?
I did the latter, with a ‘what do you think?’ question, and we had a wonderfully existential chat. Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: nlp attitude, nlp modelling, pegasus NLP | 
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“I’m feeling overwhelmed”
No less than three people (friends, relatives, colleagues) – in one day (today, that is) have said to me that they felt ‘stressed’ and they each described their experience in different ways (1) overwhelmed by everything (2) buckling under the pressure and (3) really stressed out.
Wanting to help
Most of us, in such a situation, feel a natural urge to alleviate their pain and help them out.
So we run into the nearest (remaining) telephone both and change into our Superman/Superwoman outfit and move Into Advice Giving Mode. Now as Super-Helper we begin telling them how to run their lives! Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: advice giving, nlp modelling, nlp people helping |
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For some time I have been using NLP to model, or identify the key elements in, highly successful ‘life relationships’ – whether these be marriages, co-habitations, or wonderful friendships.
This quest has been driven by the belief that, if NLP truly provides us with the means to study excellence in human behaviour, then it might more usefully be used to have great relationships and to manage one’s own emotions rather than to do some of the things for which it has become famous for such as
- seducing people (usually men-seducing-women, it seems)
- persuading people to do things that you want them to do (irrespective of what is appropriate for them)
- having power over others – which is a rather sad goal
- getting people to think you were wonderful – which, if you need to do that, suggests that you maybe you are not…
- and so on
Anyway, I decided to float a few of my results at a session I presented on the November 2008 NLP Annual Conference in London. Read the rest of this entry »
