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Self esteem is not a thing – it’s simply a way of thinking
This week’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about self esteem. And how, whether it be high or low, self esteem is simply a habit – a habitual way of thinking about ourselves. As American psychologist and philosopher William James observed about 100 years ago ‘All our life … is but a mass of habits’.
Many experts refer to people as having ‘low self esteem’ – as if this were a thing which exists somewhere inside us and which, therefore, needs expert professional treatment.
Yet, as we recognise in NLP, this is missing the point by miles! Because there is no such ‘thing’ as self esteem – whether it be high or low. Self esteem is not something we have - it is something we do through how we think. Continue reading
I discovered darts
When I first came to England I discovered the game darts. It was a great way of spending an evening while enjoying a relaxed couple of pints with friends. Yes, they did have darts in some Irish pubs but not nearly to the same extent as here in the UK where, at the time, virtually every pub had a dartboard.
Despite having no experience in the game I discovered I had a ‘natural talent’ for playing darts. I was pretty successful – for the first few weeks.
And then things went awry. I gradually became quite hopeless at the game – almost to the point where hitting the dart board at all, let alone hitting the spot I wanted to hit, was considered successful. Continue reading
You’re already a life coach
Tip 1. ‘Pegasus NLP Tip: You’re a coach whenever you help a person with a difficulty: teacher, manager, parent, friend, professional coach’.
The term life coach describes a person whose profession involves helping others overcome their difficulties and achieve their goals. But we all act as amateur life coaches at times.
You are life coaching whenever a friend or colleague or member of your family asks for your help in dealing with a problem. If you are a team leader or manager you do it as part of your role – especially in appraisals. Many parents aim to offer coaching to their children as an alternative to telling them what to do or think.
Last week’s NLP Twitter Tips on @pegasusnlp offered 5 suggestions for doing a better job of ‘amateur life coaching’. The week’s tips are developed in this article. Continue reading
People who are ‘going to’ have a great future
The next Pegasus NLP Newsletter will be out shortly. It will be about people who have their ‘future on wheels’. The ones (unlike you or I!) who talk a great talk about the wonderful future they are going to have. But who never seem to get any nearer to it.
The ‘future on wheels’ pattern is a sort of never-never approach to life! Continue reading
There are articles on Goals and Values on our main website
Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values1.htm
Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values2.htm
Goals or Dreams (1) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/goals_or_dreams_1.htm
Goals or Dreams (2) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/goals_achieve_them_2.htm
People who are going to have a great future http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_future_on_wheels.htm
NLP in Selling: http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_sales.htm
Using stress to motivate http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_live_your_dream.htm
There are articles on Goals and Values on our main website
Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values1.htm
Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values2.htm
Goals or Dreams (1) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/goals_or_dreams_1.htm
Goals or Dreams (2) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/goals_achieve_them_2.htm
People who are going to have a great future http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_future_on_wheels.htm
NLP in Selling: http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_sales.htm
Using stress to motivate http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_live_your_dream.htm
There are articles on Goals and Values on our main website
Goals and Values – your hot buttons (1) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values1.htm
Goals and Values – your hot buttons (2) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_and_values2.htm
Goals or Dreams (1) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/goals_or_dreams_1.htm
Goals or Dreams (2) http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/goals_achieve_them_2.htm
People who are going to have a great future http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_future_on_wheels.htm
NLP in Selling: http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_sales.htm
Using stress to motivate http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_live_your_dream.htm
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