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This is the 3rd of the Six Relationship Freedoms – and many people find this a particularly difficult one to offer to one’s partner.

There’s a game that some couples play which goes along these lines:

‘What are you thinking about?’
‘Nothing’
‘You must be thinking of something!’
‘No, honestly, I wasn’t…’
‘I don’t believe you – what are you trying to hide from me!’
‘Nothing’
‘Yes you are – you’re thinking of that man/woman I saw you looking at (in the café, at work, at the party etc etc) – otherwise you’d tell me!’

It’s the ‘If you truly loved me you’d tell me your thoughts’ game. And it’s often based on ‘my’ insecurity: Read the rest of this entry »

The Six Freedoms model identifies six ‘things that work’ in great relationships; the freedoms which we implicitly give one another and which, when both parties suport them, provide a very sound foundation for the relationship.

(2) Freedom to be an individual

You have a right to be an individual. And to have your own personality. Loving each other doesn’t mean we have to be ‘joined at the hip’ – we should still have the freedom to have our own personalities, beliefs, opinions, values, and individuality. Read the rest of this entry »