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Daily NLP Tips
The new daily NLP Tips series on Twitter is for people who have had some experience of NLP. This is because anything other than a reminder of an NLP concept or process would be impossible to squeeze into 140 characters – it’s a tough enough challenge as it is 
I’m planning on keeping the series going for a few weeks, at least, until I get a sense of how useful it is proving to people. I will also repost the Tips here on the Pegasus NLP Blog, along with some explanatory notes, every week or two. This is to enable people who don’t use Twitter to have access to them.
And if you do use Twitter you can follow the NLP Tips: @pegasusnlp
Day 1. The Sameness & Difference Meta Programme
Meta Programmes reminder: Sameness – first recognises how things are similar. Difference – first recognises how things are not similar. Posted Saturday, 7 February 2011.
Sameness-Difference is one of the most useful of the NLP Meta Programmes. It helps explain why some people like lots of change and variety in their lives while others prefer continuity and stability.
Day 2. Rapport through body language matching
Rapport: body language matching (most risky, liable to intrude). Match only one area e,g. torso position Allow 10-20 secs before matching. Posted on Saturday, 7 February 2011.
As already mentioned in the blog articles below the Body Language method of creating rapport is risky since it is likely to intrude into the awareness of the other person who may well misconstrue it as an attempt to manipulate or to mimic them. Nevertheless it will work quite well if done very subtly, with the 10-20 seconds delay mentioned above, and against a background of the 4 Rs. Continue reading
NLP vs. Bodywork
In the early 80’s as I was exploring NLP I also became interested in bodywork as another route to personal development. As the name suggests bodywork is about physical ways of enabling oneself and others to get to know ourselves better and to feel better. My experimenting took me into workshops and training in Touch for Health and other branches of applied kinesiology, acupressure, shiatsu, reflexology, iridology, Gestalt Therapy, bioenergetics, neo-Reichian work, along with Tai Chi and other forms of Chi work.
I noticed at the bodywork workshops that people were more warm and touchy-feely with one another. This was great at times and at other times became an imposition, especially when it came to hugging. Continue reading
Self Talk has its uses …
A lot of us who do our thinking primarily through self talk or, as we term it in NLP, through Auditory Digital thinking, try to keep track of everything going on in our lives “in our heads”.
And if you have a very busy life and have lots of things to keep track of you’ll know that this is not a very efficient way of keeping track – and that you’ll be quite familiar with the process of constantly ‘going over’ things through self talk:
- I must remember to do that,
- When will I have time to fit this in?
- Emm, let me think, could I postpone that till tomorrow?
- Oops, forgot to make that phone call! Continue reading
Bad times or learning opportunities?
What’s your favourite screw-up, setback, mistake, weak spot, etc. What’s pretty well guaranteed to have you in an unpleasant mood? For example:
- Do you forget things? And then give yourself a hard time about it.
- Do you get irritable? And then blame yourself or others for causing the mood change?
- Do you fret unnecessarily about things – which later turn out okay?
- Do you blame others for not behaving as you’d like them to – and then use guilt to try and mould their behaviour?
- Do you feel sorry for yourself because the world isn’t as it should be – but do nothing to make things right for yourself? Continue reading
NLP Quick Tips: Task, Relationship… and Rapport
There’s been a long gap between this post and the previous one — almost 2 months. September-November is our busiest period and happily this year has been no exception.
So finding time to keep up with blogs articles hasn’t been easy. And that’s quite frustrating because I get so many great ideas for articles from interacting with people who attend our NLP training courses.
Quick Tips?
Yep, it’s been a matter of lots of great ideas and no time to flesh them out into articles… so I’ve come up with the idea of “Quick Tips” in which I’ll condense very practical, down-to-earth ways of doing things more effectively into as few words as possible.
Obviously these won’t be very thorough or in-depth but they will be practical.
Take your time!
One of the first “challenges” in becoming an effective comnicator is knowing how to create the right atmosphere for effective communicating to occur. (By the way, this is a huge subject – further ideas and tips will follow.) Continue reading
Do you give yourself a hard time?
What you do when you slip up? When you make a mistake, forget something, screw up, open your mouth and (metaphorically) put your foot in it, do something embarrassing, etc.
If you’re like most of us you give yourself a hard time about it. You pile on the guilt. Harangue yourself. Resort to endless self-criticism. Relive the awkward or embarrassing or failure moment over and over again.
All accompanied by the self talk: why can’t you ever get anything right! You stupid, stupid person! How can you be so foolish/silly/careless/short-sighted/… (plus anything else you’d like to add). Continue reading
Good NLP myths don’t die
Yep, it’s back yet again – the NLP Lie-Detector myth or lie. I’ve just come across a Google Alerts’ reference to this NLP lie-detector article from Alabama’s North Jefferson News.
What myth?? You know, it’s the one which says that you can tell if a person is lying by whether they look up to the right or to the left when you ask them a question.
The Myth
In essence it suggests that if you ask someone a question and their eyes move up and to their left they ‘should be’ remembering something they have already seen. And if they look up and to their right they ‘are’ creating or making up an image.
So if I ask you a question and you look up and to your right this shows me that you are making up the answer i.e. you are lying. Simple! And false.
(By the way, there’s a previous Pegasus NLP Blog article about the lie-detector myth published in February 2008.) Continue reading
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