Comments on: NLP & Rapport (3): Rapport by skill – or by trial and error? http://pegasusnlpblog.com/nlp-rapport-skill-trial-and-error NLP for people who like to think for themselves! Thu, 09 Feb 2012 19:12:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Reg http://pegasusnlpblog.com/nlp-rapport-skill-trial-and-error/comment-page-1#comment-995 Reg Tue, 30 Mar 2010 10:25:43 +0000 http://pegasusnlpblog.com/?p=694#comment-995 Hi Steve: I think the switch would be much easier than learning to type with more than four fingers - or, in my case, two fingers. I don't think it's about time and effort, really - it's more about making it an ongoing direction. Funnily enough the thing that helped me get started in this direction in my late teens was Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People". The writing style is now quite out of date and the book is certainly not an all encompassing bible - but it has a few useful tips and you can pick it up for less than a fiver at Amazon. But, before you decide on a strategy read the whole "NLP and rapport" series (it'll probably run to a total of 10 articles) including the current newsletter. Hi Steve: I think the switch would be much easier than learning to type with more than four fingers – or, in my case, two fingers. I don’t think it’s about time and effort, really – it’s more about making it an ongoing direction.

Funnily enough the thing that helped me get started in this direction in my late teens was Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. The writing style is now quite out of date and the book is certainly not an all encompassing bible – but it has a few useful tips and you can pick it up for less than a fiver at Amazon.

But, before you decide on a strategy read the whole “NLP and rapport” series (it’ll probably run to a total of 10 articles) including the current newsletter.

]]> By: Steve Sharkey http://pegasusnlpblog.com/nlp-rapport-skill-trial-and-error/comment-page-1#comment-989 Steve Sharkey Mon, 29 Mar 2010 09:06:18 +0000 http://pegasusnlpblog.com/?p=694#comment-989 What a brilliant description of my conversations... So nice to see what I do put into words... The question is whether I will make the time available to re-train myself - it's like learning to type with more that 4 fingers - I know I'll go backwards before I start going forwards. "Simulating" & "lucking" on raport seems to work so often that to strive to do it in a genuine way requires discipline and consistency that I had long since left behind - but it is very much a limiting factor for me, I guess this is where the phrase "no pain no gain" really comes from. What a brilliant description of my conversations… So nice to see what I do put into words… The question is whether I will make the time available to re-train myself – it’s like learning to type with more that 4 fingers – I know I’ll go backwards before I start going forwards. “Simulating” & “lucking” on raport seems to work so often that to strive to do it in a genuine way requires discipline and consistency that I had long since left behind – but it is very much a limiting factor for me, I guess this is where the phrase “no pain no gain” really comes from.

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