Comments on: NLP & Rapport (2): Communicating, talking… and listening?

By: maria

maria — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 17:17:30 +0000

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By: Tudor Barker

Tudor Barker — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 22:13:41 +0000

I was involved with a meeting with Social Services, 2 voluntary organisations, a teacher and several other organisations, and a young person whose future everyone was discussing.

There was a barrage of questions and answers, and general hullabaloo, this went on for some time.

There was a slight pause, and I spoke across the table to the young person: “what do you think about all this?”

You could cut the silence in the room with a knife, but the smile on the young persons face said it all.

Tudor

By: Reg

Reg — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 08:45:56 +0000

Thanks for a great LOL first thing in the morning, Steve. (Your closing line did it.)

In NLP we look for the motivation driving a behaviour and your ‘brilliant mind’ comment suggests a hypothesis in the case of your ex-colleague. Great to encounter such minds – it’s just a pity that, so often, they don’t seem to realise they don’t have a monopoly on brilliance.

By: Steve Sharkey

Steve Sharkey — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 08:27:44 +0000

This sounds just like someone who I used to work with. I was warned but couldn’t believe it so when a group of us were travelling between company sites I tried to break into her monologue. I waited for a pause and when one arrived I started adding my thoughts on the subject – only for her to finish taking her breath and start up again. I glanced in my rear view mirror and noticed the grins on their faces but was determined not to give up so I continued talking. But so did she. I simply could not keep it up, try as I did, I found the two streams of words distracting to my thinking and I felt so rude for talking at the same time. I just couldn’t understand how she could do it at the time. In hind sight I don’t think she even heard me… A brilliant mind but I restricted myself to reading her written reports from that moment on.

By: nlp courses

nlp courses — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 23:20:34 +0000

So I’m not the only one who hates being talked down to then

By: Reg

Reg — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 22:38:48 +0000

I agree with your Tom Hopkins’ quote – it reminded of one of my favourites: About 60 years ago Bert H Schlain, another US sales guru and author of Big League Salesmanship, used to warn salespeople about talking rather than listening ‘Samson slew 10,000 Philistines with the jawbone of an ass. And every day 1000′s of orders are killed in the same way’!

By: Clinton Skakun

Clinton Skakun — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 22:08:31 +0000

Tom Hopkins said “The person who talks the most learns the least.”

Haha, I love this: “But not everyone stays stuck with their childhood role modelled behaviours”