Comments on: If you always do what you’ve always done…. http://pegasusnlpblog.com/if-you-always-do-what-youve-always-done practical nlp applications & ideas Sun, 20 May 2012 04:57:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: colinpowell http://pegasusnlpblog.com/if-you-always-do-what-youve-always-done/comment-page-1#comment-131 colinpowell Wed, 25 Jun 2008 09:55:19 +0000 http://pegasusnlpblog.com/?p=31#comment-131 Each November I experience a difficulty with Remembrance Sunday. "In the going down of the sun and in the morning, we will remember them." Truly great words - but I can't 'remember' those who fought and those who died in the two World Wars - for I never knew any of those who died, nor met them on the field of battle, nor did I witness the terrible widespread traumas to which this particular day is dedicated. Honour them, I can - but Remember them, I can't. Perhaps there's a case for re-naming Remembrance Sunday, if only to give an opportunity to the many young people I meet who have adopted a 'nothing to do with me' attitude, to change their perspective - for at the moment I think their viewpoint has some justification. I can only remember events which I have experienced myself first-hand, and even then I now recognise that my early memories have been subjected to decades of filtering and the reinforcing of beliefs which, until recently, I never thought necessary to re-examine. [For why should I ? Does a goldfish ever stop and wonder if it's swimming in water ? Does it even know of the water's existence ?] I am grateful to Bandler (Structure of Magic 1, p.16) for a description of how Generalisation, Deletion and Distortion can occur following personal rejection and so produce a self-reinforcing positive feedback loop, which for some people leads to a self-fulfilling life-script of self-harm or self-sabotaging behaviour. Perhaps there's a case for introducing NLP into prisons ... ? Each November I experience a difficulty with Remembrance Sunday.
“In the going down of the sun and in the morning, we will remember them.” Truly great words – but I can’t ‘remember’ those who fought and those who died in the two World Wars – for I never knew any of those who died, nor met them on the field of battle, nor did I witness the terrible widespread traumas to which this particular day is dedicated. Honour them, I can – but Remember them, I can’t.

Perhaps there’s a case for re-naming Remembrance Sunday, if only to give an opportunity to the many young people I meet who have adopted a ‘nothing to do with me’ attitude, to change their perspective – for at the moment I think their viewpoint has some justification.

I can only remember events which I have experienced myself first-hand, and even then I now recognise that my early memories have been subjected to decades of filtering and the reinforcing of beliefs which, until recently, I never thought necessary to re-examine. [For why should I ? Does a goldfish ever stop and wonder if it's swimming in water ? Does it even know of the water's existence ?]

I am grateful to Bandler (Structure of Magic 1, p.16) for a description of how Generalisation, Deletion and Distortion can occur following personal rejection and so produce a self-reinforcing positive feedback loop, which for some people leads to a self-fulfilling life-script of self-harm or self-sabotaging behaviour.

Perhaps there’s a case for introducing NLP into prisons … ?

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