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NLP and the T.A.T.E Model
The T.A.T.E. Model is great for identifying what accounts for success or failure in how we do things. We use it in our NLP Practitioner courses and it’s simply an adaptation of the famous T.O.T.E. model which was published over fifty years ago by Miller, Gallanter and Pribram.
Simply put, the TATE enables you to identify 4 elements in how someone does something i.e. in their strategy or programme for doing something.
- Trigger: How to you know when to begin doing something – and what is your goal or objective?
- Action: Once you’ve begun what exactly do you do – and how do you assess your progress towards your objective?
- Target: How clearly have you defined this objective – so that you’ll know when you’ve reached it?
- Exit: What do you do when you’re finished? Continue reading
I was asked for advice on what to do about anger – so I explained as simply as possible how we do the Anger Habit:
- People who get angry (let’s just say it’s ‘us’) do so because we have a strong sense of justice and fairness…
- We believe/decide that something is not fair or is unjust – or we believe that Other People should do things our way i.e. obey our ‘rules’
- In other words we want to be able to control the behaviour of Other People
- But, of course, Other People don’t want to be controlled by us – so they refuse to obey our rules
- So we get angry – sometimes even violent – in the hope that this will intimidate the Other People, and that they will give in and behave themselves according to our rules.
- But until we give up this need to control Other People – and accept that they won’t obey us – we’ll continue to get angry and continue to have pretty unsatisfactory relationships.
- However some people with the ‘anger habit’ find it very difficult to give up this need to control Other People
- Because they don’t like the thought of others ‘getting away with it’
- So they carry on getting angry. Getting frustrated. Losing friends. And even losing their liberty, if things get out of hand.
- Until eventually (hopefully) they realise that they cannot control everyone else in the world and that sometimes people will get away with it. That’s how it is
And there’s a lot more information here: http://www.pe2000.com/anger.htm
Living vicariously – or living
This month’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about the difference between living a fulfilling life and living your life second hand – i.e. living or living vicariously.
Many of us don’t live fulfilling lives i.e. we get by from day to day in comfort but without a real sense of fulfilment i.e. the fulfilment that comes from fulfilling our personal values. We’re filling in time rather than living.
To avoid having to face this reality or the mundanity of a life that is not purposeful and fulfilling we have come up with ‘things to look forward to’ such as favourite TV programmes, computer games, and holidays. As a result much of the year can be taken up with looking forward to the holiday or looking back on one. Or in living our lives through other people as in gossip magazines, TV reality programmes, or TV knockout talent series.
(I know of people who will spend 2-4 hours nightly watching such programmes – they spend around 25% of their waking lives in front of the TV).
The danger with this is that, because everyone else appears to be doing it, it seems like a normal way to live one’s life.
Yet if you live your life according to your personal values you can have an on-going sense of fulfilment, involvement and purpose. The TV or the holiday becomes the icing on the cake rather than the cake itself!
The newsletter is posted here: http://www.nlp-now.co.uk/nlp_newsletter_current.htm
NLP Hype
The five of us were sitting in the sunshine outside a café in the lovely little Victorian town of Swanage this morning – Julie, Peter, their two boys, and myself. And despite our best intentions the conversation drifted back to NLP – a few times.
We got to remarking on the NLP Hype that so many people still subscribe to through exhortations and exclamations along the lines
- Unleash your potential
- Have compelling goals
- Be the best you can be
- Awaken the giant within
- Live your life with passion
- You have a right to be the best there
- Aim for unlimited power in your life
And so on, ad nauseum… Continue reading
It’s not ‘NLP’
Here at Pegasus NLP we use a number of ‘non-NLP’ concepts in our courses. And we then use NLP to unpack and examine these because
- They are valuable life tools
- Using NLP to figure out how they work demonstrates that there’s a lot more to NLP than a few techniques.
10% New
Take for instance one of our favourite ‘quick insights’ – the 10% New model. There is not really a lot to this little model and we initially cover the topic in about 10 minutes yet it can be life changing…
The idea is that you avoid getting into a rut with your life or your work by introducing frequent small changes e.g. 10% new. Continue reading
The Reviewing Model
The Reviewing Model is a pragmatic adaptation of the Experiential Learning Cycle. It is one of those deceptively simple yet powerful methods for learning through doing and reviewing – which is the style of learning we use in our Pegasus NLP courses.
What is it?
The model provides a quick-and-easy three-step structure for learning and benefiting from your experience – any experience:
Step 1. What? What did I experience? What did we do? What happened first, next, etc? What was it like? What did I learn? How did I think and feel during the experience?
Step 2. So What? What can I do with what I experienced? What are the lessons and applications? Where can these be used in my everyday life?
Step 3 Now What? Okay, what am I actually going to do in the coming days and weeks? (This is where we commit ourselves to putting the learning points into practise. )
Daily NLP Tips
The new daily NLP Tips series on Twitter is for people who have had some experience of NLP. This is because anything other than a reminder of an NLP concept or process would be impossible to squeeze into 140 characters – it’s a tough enough challenge as it is 
I’m planning on keeping the series going for a few weeks, at least, until I get a sense of how useful it is proving to people. I will also repost the Tips here on the Pegasus NLP Blog, along with some explanatory notes, every week or two. This is to enable people who don’t use Twitter to have access to them.
And if you do use Twitter you can follow the NLP Tips: @pegasusnlp
Day 1. The Sameness & Difference Meta Programme
Meta Programmes reminder: Sameness – first recognises how things are similar. Difference – first recognises how things are not similar. Posted Saturday, 7 February 2011.
Sameness-Difference is one of the most useful of the NLP Meta Programmes. It helps explain why some people like lots of change and variety in their lives while others prefer continuity and stability.
Day 2. Rapport through body language matching
Rapport: body language matching (most risky, liable to intrude). Match only one area e,g. torso position Allow 10-20 secs before matching. Posted on Saturday, 7 February 2011.
As already mentioned in the blog articles below the Body Language method of creating rapport is risky since it is likely to intrude into the awareness of the other person who may well misconstrue it as an attempt to manipulate or to mimic them. Nevertheless it will work quite well if done very subtly, with the 10-20 seconds delay mentioned above, and against a background of the 4 Rs. Continue reading
NLP vs. Bodywork
In the early 80’s as I was exploring NLP I also became interested in bodywork as another route to personal development. As the name suggests bodywork is about physical ways of enabling oneself and others to get to know ourselves better and to feel better. My experimenting took me into workshops and training in Touch for Health and other branches of applied kinesiology, acupressure, shiatsu, reflexology, iridology, Gestalt Therapy, bioenergetics, neo-Reichian work, along with Tai Chi and other forms of Chi work.
I noticed at the bodywork workshops that people were more warm and touchy-feely with one another. This was great at times and at other times became an imposition, especially when it came to hugging. Continue reading
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