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Archive for January, 2010

Making it ‘your own’ Values Hierarchy

Values are very personal. No-one can or should advise us about which values are right for us. Of course lots of people are only too happy to do so, whether as well-meaning friends or well-intentioned (if unskilled) coaches or therapists.

It is, after all, much easier to advise someone else on how they can or should live a fulfilling life than to do so for oneself.

Fortunately anyone can use the NLP-based process described in this series of articles to check and double-check their values hierarchy before investing time and energy in pursuing it.  (Incidentally, if you’ve just discovered this blog you might want to note that this is No. 6 in a series – scroll down to get articles 1-5 in the NLP & Goals series. And it might be a good idea to read them in this order.) Read the rest of this entry »

I was feeling pretty good as I made my first coffee of the day at 7.10 am this morning (for the record that’s Saturday 16 January 2010). The snow had not affected plans for the 3^rd module of our NLP Master Practitioner Programme – and I was looking forward to going in to facilitate today’s session and was happily anticipating some of the good things we were going to be doing and exploring together.

Then I turned on Radio 4’s flagship Today news programme to find out what was happening in the big world out there.

Big mistake. I was just in time to hear presenter Jim Noughtie putting on his ‘sad-and-moving-story’ voice and beginning to read from one of the Rupert Murdoch tabloids…. “…the bloated and rotting corpses in the intense heat…” was all I heard.

Fortunately I was able to switch him off in time. It was about the terrible earthquake in Haiti, of course, and Jim had managed to evoke some images. Not what I, or anyone else, needs at any time let along 7.10 am as you begin your day. Read the rest of this entry »

If you have taken action with the first four articles on how to use NLP to identify your values and goals you will now have a list of your Top 7 values, arranged in order of importance to you.

You now have your provisional Values Hierarchy.

Next step is to check this hierarchy to ensure it takes you in a right direction for you – and without creating inner conflict. And that’s the subject of this article and the next one. Read the rest of this entry »

This month’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter is about how Grand New Starts, such as new year resolutions, begin with lots of enthusiasm and then quickly fizzle out.

Why does this happen? Frequently because big changes can are so disruptive of our own lives and the lives of those around us that the drive for normality soon undermines our new resolutions. Read the rest of this entry »

In the first three articles we looked at how to make your goals meaningful by finding out which feelings or values you want to feel more of in your life from now on – and which you would like to feel less of.

We now need to do two things:

1. whittle your list down to size and discover which feelings are more important to you and which are less so – so that you don’t waste time chasing minor ones and forget about important ones.
2. look at why so-called negative feelings are included in your final list – because, after all, isn’t NLP supposed to be about being positive…? Read the rest of this entry »