Archive for September, 2009
In the second NLP Bore trait other people are not allowed to ‘be negative’. They must remain in a permanently positive frame of mind otherwise they’ll be ‘NLPed’.
So you can’t discuss your problems – that’s not positive. You can’t talk about your difficulties – because we have to deal with process and not with content. You can’t even have a moan – because, you’re told, that’ll simply make things worse.
The right way
Now in the NLP Meta Model these are all unquestioned and unquestionable ‘Rules’ (or in the traditional jargon they are ‘Modal Operators of Necessity’). They are the NLP Bore’s rules and they are being imposed by the Bore on the rest of us – whether or not this is appropriate for the rest of us. Read the rest of this entry »
Diagnosing or categorising or labelling people contradicts the spirit of NLP. So somebody who labels others as a “visual” or a “towards person” or a “Blamer” or a “Placater” is demonstrating their lack of understanding of what NLP is all about.
In one of the best original books on NLP, NLP Volume I, Robert Dilts and the co-writers describe NLP as the “study of subjective experience”. In other words with NLP we are studying or exploring how somebody experiences the world – moment by moment.
Yet, nearly 30 years after its publication, labelling people is, unfortunately, very common in the world of NLP. Read the rest of this entry »
It’s something that comes up in every one of our NLP Practitioner Programmes – probably because the people who gravitate to NLP and to our programmes have self selected by being there. It’s central to NLP and it’s especially noticeable in the marketing of NLP programmes and NLP coaching services with phases along the lines:
Learn how to fix a person’s phobia in minutes
We can change your life
I will solve your problems
Etc.
Yes it’s the usually well-intentioned and quite understandable urge to want to solve other people problems. And, strangely enough, it’s something that we work very hard to discourage in the Pegasus NLP courses! Read the rest of this entry »
It shouldn’t, but it does. Amaze me, that is, that after 30 years of using NLP I’m still learning about myself – and will, undoubtedly, still be doing so in 30 years time.
Take for example, my most recent lesson. It can be encapsulated pithily: “Don’t dither – get on with it – and finish it!”
I’ve discovered that if I start a reasonably complex project I need to stick at it otherwise I lose momentum. When I stop it takes a lot of time, once I return to it, to catch up on where I was when I stopped. And this catching-up time is really wasted time.
And another discovery. The longer the gap between stopping and re-starting the more difficult it is to catch up again.
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One of the things which a lot of people find difficult to explain simply and succinctly, despite their enthusiasm for the subject, is what exactly is NLP?
It’s certainly a question I used to have difficulty in answering briefly and in plain English.
Someone would ask ‘Okay, so what exactly is this NLP?’ And 5 to 15 minutes later I would still be struggling to explain it – despite their interest having evaporated and their eyes having long since glazed over!
A short definition
So to avoid having to climb a similar learning curve you might like to consider this explanation …
‘NLP is the study of how we get results in our lives. Read the rest of this entry »
There seems to be no depths to which the media will slither to cheaply fill viewing time and/or get ratings. For a moment I thought I was seeing things when I noticed that UK’s Channel 4 is tonight running a 1 hour and 40 minutes special called ‘9/11: Phone Calls from the Towers’.
They have decided that Sunday night’s prime time entertainment will be a programme which will feature recordings of telephone calls of doomed people in New York’s Twin Towers. Read the rest of this entry »
