Archive for February, 2009
The Six Freedoms model identifies six ‘things that work’ in great relationships; the freedoms which we implicitly give one another and which, when both parties suport them, provide a very sound foundation for the relationship.
(2) Freedom to be an individual
You have a right to be an individual. And to have your own personality. Loving each other doesn’t mean we have to be ‘joined at the hip’ – we should still have the freedom to have our own personalities, beliefs, opinions, values, and individuality. Read the rest of this entry »
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For some time I have been using NLP to model, or identify the key elements in, highly successful ‘life relationships’ – whether these be marriages, co-habitations, or wonderful friendships.
This quest has been driven by the belief that, if NLP truly provides us with the means to study excellence in human behaviour, then it might more usefully be used to have great relationships and to manage one’s own emotions rather than to do some of the things for which it has become famous for such as
- seducing people (usually men-seducing-women, it seems)
- persuading people to do things that you want them to do (irrespective of what is appropriate for them)
- having power over others – which is a rather sad goal
- getting people to think you were wonderful – which, if you need to do that, suggests that you maybe you are not…
- and so on
Anyway, I decided to float a few of my results at a session I presented on the November 2008 NLP Annual Conference in London. Read the rest of this entry »
I wasn’t in a hurry when he phoned so I let him talk on – I was curious to know where he was going with his very fast, well-rehearsed, and seemingly endless patter.
He began by talking about how he wanted to create a relationship between his and our company in which we would provide his corporate customers with NLP-based staff development programmes. His fast delivery would have made it difficult for me to ask any clarifying questions even if I’d wanted to. Read the rest of this entry »
