Archive for November, 2008
The end of the world is nigh (again)
This month’s Pegasus NLP Newsletter explores, through NLP eyes, how the new media is reporting the current international financial difficulties.
Using the NLP method of seeking the ‘intention’ or purpose or motivation behind that behaviour, we explore the possibility that the news media (newspapers, radio and television) may be using the Shock-Sadden-Scare-Seduce formula to exploit its customers – rather than to provide us with balanced and objective news coverage – in order to sell more copies or more advertising, to further the careers of journalists, and/or to maintain falling ratings in the face of internet competition.
(The full newsletter article is here)
I’ve just been to the annual NLP Conference in London. The conference has been running for about 20 years but this was my first visit after about 14 or more years and what a delightful and encouraging experience! Read the rest of this entry »
This Toxic Relationship Game is about status. The expert player has a range of tools for putting you in your place (which is in a lower status to them) and all are based on knocking you down and then building up again in a way which makes you feel appreciative of their friendship and support!
This game is both crafty and complicated:
Step 1: First they make a disguised criticism of you. Read the rest of this entry »
People who run the ‘Tell me I’m wonderful’ pattern or programme are looking for fans rather than friends. They regale you with tales of their exploits and successes and deals. And they are very insistent that you listen to and appreciate every little detail – and that you demonstrate how much you admire them!
You are their audience and they require that you demonstrate your appreciation of their wonderfulness.
Like emotional suction pumps their personal insecurity is so great that they constantly need to be admired, praised, and be the centre of attention. Read the rest of this entry »
I’ve been gathering together some ideas for a mini workshop I’m running at this year’s annual NLP Conference which is being held this coming weekend in London.
No, this doesn’t account for my long silence on this blog. That was due to a particularly busy training period – plus the almost-writer’s-block phenomenon whereby the longer you put off getting back into writing the more reasons you find to continue putting it off…
Anyway, the theme of the mini workshop is how NLP can help in developing and maintaining great relationships. So I’ve been doing quite a bit of thinking about relationships and have been wondering about the less-than-useful games people play in relationships. Read the rest of this entry »
